I wrote a few posts back that I was going to be sharing lady moments each week in Young Women. I have had a couple of requests to post them here so that more than the Young Women can work on becoming ladies.
First of all I apologize that I don't have references. I did many searches on the Internet several months back and I didn't keep track of where I found all of the information because I hadn't planned on blogging about it. But...unless I state where I found the information otherwise...it was on the Internet, I searched, how to become a lady, or attributes of a lady (hopefully if you are seeking a reference you will be able to find what I found)
Week/Tip 1 of becoming a lady: (tips for what to work on - at the end)
Attitude, poise, elegance of speech, posture and self-confidence are traits that define a lady and make her a complete woman.
Let us establish what it is not before we go on to talk about what it is. If you think being a lady requires you to be coy, shy, bat your eyelids, sigh and be complacent, compliant, a doormat and all that syrupy stuff, perish those thoughts. Neither is it in being snobbish or intimidating. The quintessence of a being a lady lies in her attitude, poise, manners, and elegance of speech, posture and self-confidence.
A lady is considerate, concerned, and respectful of all the people around her. A lady has firm belief in her own abilities and talent to take her towards her goals. A lady has self-esteem and a steely strength that does not need the authentication or seal of approval from the man in her life. A lady speaks her mind assertively and not aggressively. A lady knows what her boundaries and limits are. A lady knows when to say "No" or, "That is enough". A lady is in total grace under pressure. A lady takes care of herself and has pride in her appearance. A lady is comfortable with her "real woman's" body.
A lady dresses in classic elegance and styles that are becoming to her body type and not follow latest trends just because it is "in". A lady never gossips. A lady knows when and how to apologise and also accept an apology gracefully. A lady never ridicules or hurts someone deliberately. A lady does not flaunt her wealth. A lady is comfortable with her fun, laughing side.
In short, just because one is a woman, she does not automatically become a lady. Being a "lady" is all the above-mentioned qualities and more in a woman that makes it a pleasure to be with her, makes her memorable and definitely moves one to say "how charming!" Being called a lady is perhaps, the highest compliment a woman can receive!
**Tip 1**
Cross your ankles, not your legs.